After posting to the blog yesterday I felt compelled to gird my loins (I just love the way that sounds, not sure exactly what it means but it sounds great) get out of bed and do something different so yesterday was a vertical day. It's probably not good practice to use language you do not fully understand so hold on for me whilst I go and look it up.
lupus pause!
Okay, I'm back. To gird your loins (if you didn’t know it already) means preparing to do something difficult or dangerous. Well that's definitely the truth so I challenge you today to gird your loins and do something you didn't think you could or push your boundaries a little. You might end up tired and exhausted but you would also have done something and who knows you might even feel better for it and let’s face it you were probably going to feel tired and exhausted anyway.
All that talk of pushing and girding sounds quite exhausting so if you don't mind I think I am going to sit this one out, well I was pretty active and empowered yesterday :-) so now it’s your turn. Today will be my duvet day at the horizontal club.
Today I'd like to talk about the things we say to other people. I’ve decided to wage war against those people who ask how are you? Without really wanting an answer or even caring what that answer is and instead of continuing with those over used platitudes like I'm okay, I'm fine of some other lie, I am going to tell them the truth (well they do say the truth will set you free) whatever that may be at the time.
I am going to look out for me and my well being rather than making everyone else feel good because I am sure it can’t be good to keep the hurt and the pain all to myself so I’m going to share. Okay I admit it, I do have an ulterior motive I simply think it is time to do some spring cleaning and clear some clutter from my life but also to help cleanse those individuals (you know who you are) so that they can use our time together and their time with others more productively.
My mission is simply to get people to ask only the questions they want answers to and who knows I might actually make some really connections along the way.
By the way do you know what FINE means? Feeling, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional. So maybe I am telling the truth when I politely answer I’m fine.
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1 comment:
Hi Carole;
I appreciate your blog - thank you for spending the time to share your thoughts and feelings with us.
I wondered yesterday whether I should ask my friends NOT to ask me how I am, or whether I should always just say 'fine' and quickly change the subject. I usually say "I have my good days and my bad days" and quickly change the subject but this leaves me feeling, well, funny? mildly annoyed? There are days when making dinner is my sole vertical activity and I'm darned proud to have accomplished that much. Conversely, I'm also deeply ashamed at having done so little. As you say, when they ask, do they really want to know?
regards,
Jeannette
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